Not My Virtue

Patience: the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset; The quality or virtue of patience is presented as either forbearance or endurance

I am not a patient person and because I

lack patience, I have destroyed potential relationships.

Like many other people, I want what I want when I want it and how I want it …. This is not a Godly attitude and definitely not the way a woman, who expresses she desires a husband, should be.

I have never been the type person who can just enjoy the ride; I wanted to control the ride. I have been married several times and I can actually admit that I rushed into all of my marriages. Instead of taking my time and enjoying dating, I rushed!

Why the rush? The spirit of rejection is real. Looking back I can honestly say, I thought that if I didn’t marry quickly that they would leave me. I needed those relationships to validate that I was wanted.

Why is this topic important? Men need us to allow them to take the lead. Men do not like to feel rushed or given ultimatums. I hear so many stories of manipulation and there are many women who think this is ok… manipulation is a form of witchcraft and God is not pleased. Any time we have to manipulate, be dishonest, and control any man, expect problems throughout the relationship.

What did I learn? I learned that if I had taken my time, I would not have married any of my husbands. Why? Because I would have taken time to realize I had nothing in common with any of them, we were not equally yoked, and I was not really feeling them.

This time I am taking my time. I am taking time limits off my relationship. I am not applying pressure on my partner. I am getting to know him as well as getting to know different aspects of myself. I am learning what he needs and asking God to show me how to provide those things.

I encourage you to take it slow. Pray God graces you with patience. Be patient with your partner and be patient with yourself. Enjoy the ride and recognize when you need to get off the ride. Get to know your partner… build with your partner. Do not focus on him so much that you lose yourself.

I have disclosed another flaw…