He informed me he has experimented with a male he works with. As a woman I do not understand his decision making process nor what he feels about his situation or himself. What I do know, he is at a defining moment in his life and every decision he makes right now will impact every area of his life. He also informed me he and his wife have separated.
It is imperative to thoroughly consider all parts of a potential decision. For me, I consider all available options, how the decision not only impacts me but others attached to me, and is it a decision I can undo. Listening to him, he did not think it through and even if he wants to undo it, there will be consequences.
He began to explain his intimate encounters and I will say I was a little floored as I have never had this reaction to a man. Because I was floored, I thought about my womanhood as it relates to male relationships. Am I excited about my significant other and do I make him feel wanted. I do fail in this area! We have to ensure we make our partners feel wanted and valued. We are busy, trust I understand, but we cannot continue to miss moments of intimacy (which is not always sexual), bonding, and to learn more about them.
He asked, "am I gay"? I informed him I am not able to provide an answer; he seemed upset.
This is really the heart of this post:
We have to stop allowing people to tell us who and what we are. Spiritually speaking we should consult God on who we are and what we are and if a person speaks into you, they are only confirming what God has already told you.
He knew us before we were formed in the womb, He created us for His purpose, and He knows all things therefore, He has the answer to who we are. So many times people tell us things that benefit their agenda which have us doing things God did not orchestrate and operating in authority we do not have.
Suppose I had given him an answer....just suppose you had received everything spoken over you!
Having wisdom from God is important, I cannot stress this. It does not mean we will get it right every time but it does reduce chances of walking too far down a dangerous path.
Having a life coach, circle of support, and wise counsel; listen to advice and accept instruction, that you may gain wisdom in the future.
There was more to add but I will stop...Remember be careful of letting other people tell you what you are. Pray for discernment, accept wise counsel, and if you ask for guidance ensure that person has a relationship with God.
Your friend reminds me of little Nas X. I can agree your information about him is useful. I feel like it helps us understand what some of these gay be thinking.
Loved "be careful letting others tell you what you are." Pray that God lead you
So true at the end a relationship with God!