He continues to have doubt about his attraction to men. He is adamant he has not been sexually involved with a man or even kissed a man, but expresses concern as he states he thinks about it all the time.
He has decided to go through with the divorce. I wonder how his wife handling everything. I mean is she thinking about every time he made love to her or expressed his love for her. Is he concerned about how he made her feel? We talked about his wife at minimum but never about if he felt bad about what he is doing to her.
To clarify, divorce hurts, but that is not what he done to her. What he has done was stood before God and went into covenant knowing he was attracted to the same sex. That brings about another question, is the attraction new or has he always had these feelings? Was he ashamed and embarrassed…mmmm…did he consider the shame and embarrassment he is causing his wife?
Men, do not get married if you are unsure about which sex you prefer or what person you want to be with ( women the same but this about men).
Thoughts? I would say, at this age, if he has never been with a man, he may have these continuous feelings because media is ensuring we are being fed so much information about this subject. I could say, there is so much interest in ( trying to find correct wording) taking risk, this may be risqué for him. Relationships can be difficult and there is so much temptation and opportunity out there to do whatever with whomever one chooses. But what we can not do is hurt people and whether intentionally or unintentionally, no one deserves to be hurt and if we all practice being honest, situations like this will be avoided. I rather be hurt from the truth, in the beginning, than be told a lie and be hurt in the end.
If you have a partner at home, respect them enough to be honest; if they are not for you say that and if they are for you show them daily.
No one can validate your feelings and your choices. I say, do what is best for you! We all deserve happiness, take a leap, be happy! It’s not up to anyone else to determine what/who you like and no one else has to be in your intimate space. I support anyone’s choice in partners and if those closest to you love you, they will too. Give them time and space to process but the worst thing you can do is to live a lie. If I can’t trust you to be honest with yourself how can I trust you to be honest with me?
So he’s hasn’t been with a man and continue to think about them? Is he more of a submissive guy or dominant? It seems like a divorce is taking to a whole new level? I like this story and would love to hear more about it.
All true. Again, do we go into relationships already knowing we are unable to be faithful and honest. One thing I do know, as a believer, unless we allow God to be first and rely on Him, our marriages/relationships won’t last. I hate divorce.. I know it’s necessary in some cases but I also know God can and will restore if both parties let Him!
This is so deep and there is a lot of thought into the hurt process of this!! She will think about every argument,every insecure moment she had!How she felt in certain situations ! Was he thinking about men while they had sex ? While she thought they were making love and his passion came from her!!! My heart hurts for her…. Marriage is hard enough…and it’s even harder when you got to keep your husbands attention and pray there is no other woman to capture it… let alone a man!!